Rollercoaster ride on life

words have always inspired us since ages. Sometimes it is our own soothing words that goes on In our heads and sometimes it is the words of others that makes a difference in our living, in our thought processes. 

So what is it that you tell yourself in the morning that keeps you going throughout the day? 

Or is it that you do not say anything to yourself and you read someone else’s thoughts to motivate yourself early in the morning? 

Now, if you ask me What I do early in the morning then I must tell you the truth. The truth is that I get up in the morning and the first thought that comes to my mind is how am I going to make it through the day? Will I be enough? Will I have a lot of challenges? Will I fall sick? 

The next thing that I do to myself is, I play the healer. I tell myself nothing will go wrong; everything will work out fine and even if it doesn’t something will come up that will make my day worth the effort. 

The third thing that I do is talk to myself. Oh! You must hear what I talk to myself. but then, that surely calms me down. The nervous tic in my head is no longer active. So then, I get back to some reading either I read my own poems, or I read someone else’s. On some days I also end up reading sayings and quotes by others. At the end of the day I always try to find out is the quote that I read to myself in the morning find some place in my life during the day.

So, this is how I try to make my life a little more than it seems in the morning. 

Let me tell you a few of my favorite quotes in this article.

Oh yes! I must also tell you that sometimes I do refer do the lyrics of some songs, they too give you courage to live through the day.

So here we go hope you find peace in them in times of trouble and solace in times of confusion.

1. I hope the leaving is joyful, And I hope never to return. Frida Kahlo.

2. I never paint dreams or nightmares. I paint my own reality. Frieda Kahlo.

3. Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. Maya Angelou.

4. A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to perceive your and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles. Christopher Reeve.

5. The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room. Frank Lucas

6. Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome. anonymous

7. Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger and wiser version of you.

8. We all have an unsuspected reserve of strength insight that emerges when life puts us to the test. Isabel Allende

9. Healing does not mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

10. Breathe, my friend. You are not old, you are young. You are not a mess, you are normal. Extraordinary, perhaps. In the blink of an eye your life will change. And it will continue to change for decades to come. Enjoy it, embrace it, be grateful for the ride. You are not old, you are young. And faith will get you everywhere. Just you wait. Abby Larson.

So, this is a collection that 

I read often Since I fall often, I rise often. 

I see often What is missing in this world 

what can make this world beautiful is not hope alone 

what can make this world worth living are not words alone 

but the duality that people often encounter needs to stop 

or needs to find a point where two extremes merge.

Fakeness, cunning minds, indulging minds, diverging minds.

all need to find there ends.

all need to make peace and not war.

Hi all,

Oft late neither am I posting regularly and nor am I reading and liking your posts so frequently.

But I want to continue this practice going forth and would live to keep it alive.

To begin with again, here is a simple poem at your disposal and I would come back and read your blogs again.

Overthinking is torture. To be locked in your mind with a constant array of discommoding thoughts is hell.

¤ How you do escape?
The brain is tricky, to stop thinking about something, you have to think about not thinking about it in an attempt to think about something else. It is despairing. I am perhaps a chronic overthinker. I say so because I do it almost everyday and it does not help that I am a writer. Overthinking is part of the formula of getting a story onto paper. But I have learned and I am still learning how to get out of my head and settle my mind of these thought barrages. I am learning how to come out of the laboratory and be patient about my findings.

¤The Reason:
We overthink because we are desperate creatures hunting for answers. We like certainty and we like being in control. Don’t worry, its part of human survival tactic. Well, somewhat. Overthinking is not all bad. Probability theory requires that all possible outcomes of an event must be explored to determine what can really happen in that given situation.
We know what that is like; before a big event we find ourselves thinking about it so much, we create hypothetical beginnings and endings and even climaxes of said event before it even happens. In a way, it is preparation, so that we can deal with whatever outcome there is and not suffer from too much of a surprising consequence. And in a way it is vaticination. We cannot predict the future, but there is a deep longing inside of us that wishes we could have.
Our intuition gives us half ability to do that. This way, we sometimes can sense when something is wrong, where we should or should not go, who we can and cannot trust. We have a powerful inside voice us that can sometimes save our lives. Overthinking puts that voice on blast. It is a harsh process to go through but it is sometimes necessary.

¤The Detriment:
Overthinking is fear. Fear is a seed of a treacherous tree. We were not born with fear, it came upon us either through imparted lesson, life experience or trauma. Unfortunately, we had little to no control over what was taught or done to us in the years of our childhood. Many of us still have branches of fear living inside us from since the days of our youth. Things happen to us in childhood, relationships, friendships and in jobs and the ugly part of the experiences latch on to us so tight, the thoughts about these past experiences surface like settled poison oozing through the brain in a single moment of “thinking too much”.
We form these destructive thought patterns that are almost inescapable once we begin. We think and think about something that might be a completely innocent situation, but it is because the poison has erupted and infiltrated our minds, we create this hell. The more we overthink, the more fear we invite in and the more unsettling our thoughts become. It is a vicious cycle especially to those who suffer from anxiety disorder, depression and even suicidal thoughts.

¤How to Stop:
It is impossible to completely erase fear. You cannot just “let go of fear”. Meditation will help you silence your thoughts and develop patterns of clearer thinking but you will never be able to erase fear. Why? Because fear is part of human instinct and it is necessary in that aspect of survival and avoiding danger.
However, very rarely or perhaps never will we find ourselves in front of a tiger, and we have to make the decision to either run away or become its meal. Fear then, has the power to outsmart the mammal or even kill it.
Stress and emotional fear is different. Fear that attacks our emotions is harder to class as a fear that is helping us survive. So, all we do is overthink. We give into that type of fear and it stresses the brain to the point of irrationality and in some cases, insanity.

¤How do you stop?
Pay attention. Train yourself and your mind to be more self-aware. I have stickers on my vision board in my workspace that says “be aware” and “stay focused” and as trivial as that method seems, it helps. The moment you feel yourself about to drift off into “overthinking land”, you can do two things; either be completely silent or start talking.
When you silence yourself you prepare for the poison, you know its coming so you get ready. Read, watch tv, do chores, shower and cook. Anything will serve as a distraction when you are silent. Try to remind yourself that you are overthinking and that it will pass. Give yourself the affirmation that it is fear and stress attacking you and that you will defeat it. Be strong in your silence and be patient for the unsettledness to allay.

When you start talking you give yourself a chance to let stress out. But be careful, venting can be contrite, especially when the person or persons to whom you are speaking to may not understand you or sympathise immediately. Admit that you are overthinking and that you are lost in the ordeal. When you talk about what’s on your mind remember that it won’t completely make sense to you, let alone to the person you’re talking to. But getting things off of your chest right away is a good method to adapt so that you don’t suffer for a long period alone in your head.

¤Cry.
Crying is healing. In all of my adult years so far, I found that crying has helped me move past the toughest of times I have ever faced. When I overthink I automatically get emotional and vulnerable, so I end up crying. It is painful and it is exhausting but the outcome is appeasing. Overthinking is already a bottle of prisoned thoughts banging to come out, when you cry you allow yourself to alleviate some of the pressure that comes with being stuck inside your head. You ever noticed that headache that comes after crying? It is a pressure release. If you are not a person easily brought to tears or perhaps you are not yet 100% comfortable in your emotions, it will be difficult for you to just try to amend your troubled thoughts. In that case, you first need to learn how to connect with your emotions and your true self.

¤Think. 
Let me explain. To stop overthinking you need to think? Yes. Because most of the times we are overthinking we are not even constructively thinking but rather we are wallowing those worn thoughts about our fears and frustrations. Constructive thinking can change your life. For now, I’ll tell you how it can help to stop overthinking. We possess the power to change the way we think; but it requires practice and a ton of self-discipline but it is not impossible.

Constructive thinking is basically a way of thinking constructively about your world and environment. So instead of reacting to these events, you choose to interpret and then respond to them in ways that will support your growth and development and minimize friction with the external environment. Keep in mind that how you interpret events and circumstances effectively determines how you will respond to them emotionally.

You may not always be able to tell when you are about to overthink but you can prepare yourself. You can practice constructive thinking. It will not be easy to do anything other than sit and suffer in your thoughts but you have to find the will help yourself first. Instead of staring off into space and piling your thoughts one on top of the other as they come, read. Reading encourages constructive thinking because you automatically adjust your attention to different material that will not only shift your focus from your toxic thoughts but benefit you by feeding you knowledge or entertaining your mind.

You must remember that it is ok to overthink. It is human. But overthinking can ruin your life.

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seasons of the skull (a poem)

Reblogging Katie’s poem

My world stands on a skeleton in pieces,

broken, shattered, put together, stitched together, rickety rocketry, falls off to stand again, stands to fall again.

Life is a blotch here and a blotch there, people try to make figures out of blotches and pieces. Thus, pieces they would always seem, with a tape connecting here and a tape blotching the bigger holes. This is taken to the exhibition and put together for people to buy. We see the holes, the patchworks, the stapled rucksacks, the mighty tunes, yet we do not see the ugliness, we see it’s beauty, we see the profit we draw from it, we see the glory in being the first to buy that tarty image. But then image it is, people look up to us, people stand and clap to praise, people give us what is theirs, it is people we do it for, always it’s people. Sadly nothing we do for us, if we stand up to breathe for ourselves we fear being rejected, denied a seat in the great hall. So, it’s always them.

Very less, we want others to benefit, we do it to benefit us. “Then why not live for us?” “The road is a ‘V’ and not a dot” said he, sitting high up on the chair, in the middle of the mountains, rings of foul gas and smoke floated around him, when he said again, while scratching the surface of the hairs though trying to scratch the skull for his matted hairs, his big bun was infested, he said again, “it’s a V not a dot. You cannot reach yourself without touching others so people try to reach themselves by reaching others, only to benefit themselves in the end, kid.”